10 Workshops on Consent and Boundaries (free)

I'm offering 10 free workshops on Consent and Boundaries to continue to share the skills that help build respectful and caring communities. Please connect with me here or by email (wearemanyrivers@gmail.com) if you have any questions or want to get together for some workshops. Yip yip!


Have you ever heard the night sky cry? A poem and a workshop for “#MeToo”.

When confronted with ("#MeToo") hundreds of friends who share that they have been, and continue to be, sexually harassed/violated/assaulted how do I respond and continue to be with my community? I listen with all my senses. It's pretty amazing to not even have to say anything at first and just listen. I give time and … Continue reading Have you ever heard the night sky cry? A poem and a workshop for “#MeToo”.

Reflection on farming as a settler and relations with Indigenous communities, immigrants, migrants, and refugees

As I take steps towards my farming career back in Hanover Ontario (we're back in 3.75 months!) on Haudenosaunee, Anishinabek , Ojibwe First Nations' territory I am taking the advice to reflect on my connection to the land, and therefore the people, with which I work and have relations. (Big invitation to be open minded and hearted when reading this).

Permaculture: Intro and Practice Days (poster at bottom)

WHO & WHAT: A chance for anyone and everyone to come and practice Permaculture on a level that is appropriate for them. Briefly put,Permaculture mimics patterns from nature to design regenerative human habitat. As a toolkit of ideas and skills, Permaculture can be applied to your thoughts and physical behaviours, and to your home, garden, and … Continue reading Permaculture: Intro and Practice Days (poster at bottom)

The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nurturance Culture

Dating Tips for the Feminist Man

The opposite of masculine rape culture is masculine nurturance culture: men* increasing their capacity to nurture, and becoming whole.

The Ghomeshi trial is back in the news, and it brings violent sexual assault back into people’s minds and daily conversations. Of course violence is wrong, even when the court system for handling it is a disaster. That part seems evident. Triggering, but evident.

But there is a bigger picture here. I am struggling to see the full shape emerging in the pencil rubbing, when only parts are visible at a time.

A meme going around says ‘Rape is about violence, not sex. If someone were to hit you with a spade, you wouldn’t call it gardening.’ And this is true. But it is just the surface of the truth. The depths say something more, something about violence.

Violence is nurturance turned backwards.

These things are connected, they must be connected. Violence and nurturance are two sides of the same coin. I…

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